Ok. So, your family has made a major decision to homeschool your special child. Take a deep breath. You are about to enter a wonderful world full of knowledge and adventure. It’ll be shaky at first, but you’ll be stronger in a year down the road. Most of us have definitely been unconsciously “teaching” our children early on, whether helping in homework or other functional skills. Treat this as another step in formalizing that process.
All the basic “R”s of Reading, Writing and Arithmetic have to be in, but try to rearrange your goals keeping in mind your child’s areas of strengths and weaknesses. Cover all the basics, but focus one at a time. The intensity of learning usually pays off. In terms of setting goals, get the regular public school or state standards and use them as your base, but don’t get overwhelmed about it. Balance is the key. You want to set that higher bar for your child and at the same time, learn to fine tune it to a workable model.
In the beginning, everybody starts with copying the public school structure at home too. It’s quite natural and in fact both the child and you need it for regularity and getting a sense of accomplishment. But, work towards a flexible routine later, but only when you and your child are ready to do so. You don’t have to completely “unschool”, but relax enough not to make education another chore in the day.
Homeschooling can be really hard when you don’t understand and monitor your own body’s stress levels. Be conscious about your tension- triggers and try to avoid them at all cost. If you don’t feel good, take the day off or make the school work lighter. We’re all entitled to bad days. Also, remember that you’re playing dual role of mother and a teacher. It’s easy to get carried away and hard to take out the emotions out when you’re teaching your own child, but it’s useful to remember that these are exactly the same emotions that helped you to homeschool in the first place.
This could be a big challenge especially if you have children who have a harder time to play with other kids. Try to enroll your child in community programs, check with the charter school for classes or arrange play-dates for the child. Charter schools also have tie-ups with the school district for homeschool children to participate in classes, field trips, buddy programs etc. Seek information or create opportunities around you. I am not saying it’s easy, but the hype around this issue is a little too much.
You’ll be constantly asked by people, more out of curiosity about your decision to homeschool your child. One simple explanation that could be used is that public classrooms are too crowded and noisy and your child needs a one-on-one learning environment. And, no, special ed didn’t work out for you. The more people you try to say it aloud, the better you’ll feel about yourself, especially in the initial stages. Also, keep your options open. You don’t have to be “up at arms” with the public schools. It didn’t work for you currently. Tomorrow if you think your child would benefit from a mainstream classroom, don’t hesitate to go back.
You have to get ready to be a student first. Only then, can you learn along
with your child. Teaching your child is important, but if you’re not excited about what you’re going to impart, chances are your child will be less enthusiastic to hear about it. The only downside to this is if there is a subject you’re not quite thrilled about, it’s very hard to show passion when teaching it to your child :) In that case, feel free to enlist the help of your spouse, a friend or hire a tutor.
It’s important that there needs to be a bond or mutual trust between you and your child. It may be a no-brainer but something that could be easily overlooked after a while. Whenever you feel things are not progressing as per plan, re-examine and see if your
teaching style is overwhelming for the child and he/she is stressed out. Repair things and then proceed. If things take a day or two to cool down, that’s fine. Remember that homeschooling is a lifestyle and doesn’t end with textbooks alone.
Talking to other homeschooling or public school moms helps a lot. It doesn’t have to be about special needs. It could be a neighbor whose child is attending a public school. Check their school or homework to get some ideas. If you’re registered with charter schools,
they have good resources that can guide you with providing curriculum, supplemental materials or teaching tips. Libraries, online book stores, auction sites, online teaching resources, educational software could be valuable tools for purchasing materials.
Have a baseline of your where your child is in terms of education, extra-curricular activities, emotional regulation, socialization etc. Assess every 6 months to see how your report card looks like. Make changes as necessary. If you’re registered with a charter school, the teacher and you will be doing a report card regularly, so you’ll be monitored. Also, have short-term reward system. Any token economy
or whatever is working for your child currently could be carried over to the homeschool situation.
Lastly, when something is not working even if it has been proven to excel for others, discard it. Choose another. On the contrary, if you feel something’s worth giving a try, thumb your nose at the negative feedbacks and proceed. If it’s fails, it fails. But, if it works, you’ll go a notch higher.
- Written by Jayashree Srikanth. The above information is intended for personal use only. Please do not duplicate or use this material without obtaining prior permission.